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"Sure Jesus could restore my physical and spiritual virginity, especially if I lost it to some rapist, but who wants that? I'm saving myself for marriage, and I'll use force if necessary." -Hilary Faye

Thursday, December 08, 2005

The breakup

It has been done and I feel like an asshole.

He was so excited that we were going to be spending the better part of two days together that it made me want to vomit, so I sat him down and I told him that he has been putting too much pressure on me to make a commitment that I was not ready for.

He cried, I apologized over and over and told him that I felt that my intentions had never been misleading. I told him from day one that I was going to continue dating other people and that I was not interested in finding somebody to settle down with, he just repeatedly chose not to hear what I was saying. He acknowledged that was true, but he could not just date somebody who was dating other people.

He told me that he was a good catch and that I should be ashamed of myself for not wanting what every other woman in the world wants. I let him know that I think that is what attracted him to me in the first place, my having a different attitude about relationships.

*Sigh*

So I'm feeling pretty bad about me right now.

In a stunning lack of judgment I polished off an entire bottle of Crown Royal after he left (no small feat for sure.) I thought of y'all and my HNT commitments, so here is my ode to The Suit:

25 Comments:

At 10:37 AM, Blogger The Funky Bee said...

Wow, that was rough but guess what...he'll get over it and best part, you'll start feeling much better too. Glad you got the hard stuff taken care of, now go out, have fun and celebrate, after you get rid of the Crown hangover! Nice HNT pic fo sho!

 
At 11:03 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Greetings,
Please, do not let yourself feel so lousy. There is one good reason for that in your post. Unless I was in love with myself, or heavily medicated, I could never tell a lady that, "I was a good catch, and that she should be ashamed of herself..." It sounds like he has a healthy ego. Who knows, you might have had to compete against that at some point in the future. Bersides that, if that's his opinion of himself, plug anyone else into your position & he would,probably, say the same thing !
Again, my worthless 2 cents worth.
cheers,

 
At 11:07 AM, Blogger Poolboy said...

If I drank all of the CR that you did I'd be out of commission for the better part of a week. You're my hero.

 
At 11:16 AM, Blogger lecram sinun said...

Break ups are tough no matter which side you are on. Hope you are feeling better soon. Happy HNT anyway. :)

 
At 11:51 AM, Blogger MollyNormal said...

As long as you didn't use the line "It's not you, it's me." The Suit will survive. Congrats for doing what had to be done.

When I get totally tanked this weekend to mourn the recent death of my relationship, I shall raise a glass to you and a middle finger to the suit. :)

 
At 12:02 PM, Blogger AndyT13 said...

Drag. Well, alls well that ends well I guess. Bravo on the crown royal. I think I just threw up in my mouth a little bit. Yeesh!

 
At 12:45 PM, Blogger Sam said...

Do not feel bad. Fuck him for being a dumbass. I don't appreciate the comments he made at all. Oh, and do you live in a dry or humid part of TX? Cause I don't think the hair would like humidity. You might have to come to SD.

 
At 12:57 PM, Blogger Red said...

Wow...intense post.
Great pic. Happy HNT:)

 
At 2:35 PM, Blogger ago-go said...

you should NOT be ashamed of yourself, that's bullshit! you can want what you want as long as you're up front about it....and i know you feel shitty but i'm sure you also feel super relieved. hugs babe.

 
At 4:14 PM, Blogger yournamehere said...

Jesus, I don't think I can drink an entire bottle of Crown, and I'm a big fat cornfed motherfucker.

 
At 4:57 PM, Blogger The Village Idiot said...

Love the way you were able to tie in HNT! You rock. Be good to yourself.

happy hnt,
the idiot

 
At 5:03 PM, Blogger Jay said...

happy hnt

 
At 5:23 PM, Blogger FunkyB said...

Aw -- hey, at least you were honest!!!
And uh, happy HNT.

 
At 6:45 PM, Blogger A. Estella Sassypants said...

Steph,
I think he's a total tool for the things he said. What a fucker for thinking you should be ashamed for having your own mind. Oh the fucking horror! You should'ved told him he should be ashamed of himself for living up to the male stereotype: one who doesn't listen and has an ego the size of a conversion van.

He'll get over it, and it sounds like you did the right thing before he got even clingier and busted out a diamond.

 
At 7:21 PM, Blogger Osbasso said...

I think you know you did the right thing, both for him and for yourself. Gotta say, though, I wish I had a set of balls as big as he does! Big balls and tears--I don't think he was ever your type....

 
At 9:45 PM, Blogger sasfdasfdljkfksdjkfjsd said...

honesty is a good thing.

 
At 11:51 PM, Blogger Wenchy said...

Sounds like a ROUGH evening.

 
At 12:32 AM, Blogger Furzl said...

Damn breakups are the worst.

Great pic. Happy HNT

 
At 7:32 AM, Blogger Stairwell said...

um...Crown...*drool*

How long you two been dating??? He gets attached easily...don't he? Sorry it was so difficult, but dem's the breaks sometimes.

So, now that's over with, where is Paul these days? ;)

 
At 11:50 AM, Blogger nongirlfriend said...

Whatever. You told him up front, he knew. He should feel bad for all the pressure that in turn made you feel bad. Stop it. You were honest. That's more than a lot of people can say about themselves.

 
At 6:23 PM, Blogger katarina said...

Can you be the person that breaks up with me from now on? You're really good at it. You were honest and to the point and you didn't go out of your way to hurt him more than you had to.

I love you even more now.
Wanna get hitched?

 
At 4:13 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

tick tick tick... You need help !!
You lost your father and best friend and your an emotionally shut down person.When your down you seek comfort with your booze |"|NOT GOOD|"| and doormats !!! YES I said doormats !!!! |You use sex as a tool...get over it...|Your shit is not gold...What do you think your Dad is thinking upstairs????? Damn, when I lose my Best Friend and Father I will do my best to make him proud and not rebel....grow up !!!!!! Now go lose yourself in booze and sex and make your Daddy proud....
tick tick tick....Boom!!!!!

 
At 4:30 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yes !!!! you will have the balls to call me 214-914-1495

 
At 2:15 PM, Anonymous mikey said...

"He told me that he was a good catch and that I should be ashamed of myself for not wanting what every other woman in the world wants."

wait. you don't want cute, sensible shoes?

OK, seriously? one person's "good catch" is somebody else's dud.

and really, it's not like you dumped him for somebody else. you dumped him because you didn't want anybody. it's not your fault that he chose to pursue someone he knew wasn't looking to settle down.

I dunno. that's my take.

 
At 3:13 PM, Blogger Evil Petting Zoo said...

If you're not ready..you're not. HHNT!

 

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